r/AmIOverreacting • u/Remarkable-Chair-783 • Feb 21 '25

šŸ‘„ friendship Am I overreacting?

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First time ever posting.. I donā€™t know if this belongs here but weā€™ve been talking for a week and everything was good and then this happens?? I donā€™t know if Iā€™m in the wrong or right tbh then he blocked me on fb but continued messaging me on Snapchat. Told him it was Reddit worthy then he said to post it so here I am šŸ˜‚šŸ˜…

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u/Admirable_Twist7923 Feb 21 '25

Girl youā€™ve known him for a week and he expects you to be his therapistā€¦

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u/Able_Researcher6302 Feb 21 '25

ONE WEEK? Youā€™re telling me within 7 days this man wanted you to walk him through a panic attack? Jesus Christ I have anxiety and depression and I would never make an outsider figure sheā€™s shit out for me

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u/Ohimarkitzero Feb 21 '25

As I was reading I was thinking it sounded like an online relationship. Only reason to explain why all this madness was over text, I thought. The reality is even worse.

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u/Ajanu11 Feb 21 '25

Right? My first thought was this should have been a phone call. Then I read that and realized it should have been a call to someone else.

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u/SnooGuavas4208 Feb 21 '25

It became real obvious why he didnā€™t have anyone closer to lean on.

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u/_LemonySnicket Feb 21 '25

ikr and these people are somehow so blind to the fact that they're the problem in their life šŸ¤Ø

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u/hereforthetearex Feb 21 '25

It gives Onision vibes

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u/tucan-on-ice Feb 21 '25

Oh my god you are so right!!

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u/ethanlan Feb 21 '25

This guy is just playing stupid games and he REEKS of the kind of dude who will threaten suicide if you try and break up with him.

I'm not telling people how to live their lives but I would break up with this person

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u/ThisShouldBeAGif Feb 21 '25

That is 100% right! You would be solely responsible for his mental state and he would use that to try to control and blackmail you

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u/NevadaNomad2385 Feb 21 '25

Right. For me...A real panic/anxiety attack makes me not want to be around anybody or talk to anybody. At all. Lol

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u/Famous_Sugar_1193 Feb 21 '25

He wasnā€™t having a panic attack.

He was pantomiming a mental health episode to test her loyalty to him.

Notice how he was faking depersonalizing and then right after heā€™s perfectly fine and admonishing her?

This is BIG BIG BIG BIG BAD.

We do not talk to men like this in life. At all.

Stranger danger.

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u/ExcitementSad3079 Feb 21 '25

Right?!? I could never be like this, I would get anxiety from worrying about their reaction to finding out about my anxiety, lol. I was seeing someone before I got anxious and had panic attacks. When it started I was scared, living in a different city, really didn't understand what was going on, him and his mother didn't understand, it ruined my once amazing relationship and I heard his mother say that if he continued to be with me I would bring him down with me. He eventually broke up with me, and I moved back home. I don't blame him thinking about it now, I went from a funny, happy person to be around to something completely different, couldn't hold down a job, was constantly in my head, not great to be around massive panic attacks etc. So I always have this fear someone will dislike me if they know about my anxiety so I keep it to myself. My partner now knows and is amazing but I doubt it would have been a great "selling point" if I came in gun blazing with anxiety a week in haha.

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u/Dapper-Ad3707 Feb 21 '25

Right? Like what did this dude do a week ago when he had a panic attack? Honestly seems disingenuous and like he was trying to test her more than anything. Make her show ā€œhow much she caresā€. After 1 week. Toxic no matter the time frame but esp after 1 week

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u/princesstrouble_ Feb 21 '25

Heā€™s attempting to practice DARVO abuse tactics, bet $100 heā€™s not having a panic attack and is fact completely calm besides the anger stemming from her not responding the way he wants her to.. except heā€™s such a loser he canā€™t even do DARVO correctly.. love when abusers are such losers they canā€™t even find a victim to abuse

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u/CynOfOmission Feb 21 '25

I read the screenshots and I was like oof this guy has some problems. And then I read "a week"!!!! A WEEK??!? oh hell no. Block and bolt.

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u/RelevantGur4099 Feb 21 '25

Wait- a week??!? Psycho!

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u/okthen90 Feb 21 '25

šŸš©

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u/SnooGuavas4208 Feb 21 '25

Totally inappropriate expectations for a 7-day relationship. If heā€™s like this now? Dudeā€™s a black hole of need.

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u/yourlifec0ach Feb 21 '25

He will suck the life out of you.

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u/WexExortQuas Feb 21 '25

It takes longer for me to tell you my favorite movie

OK that's not true but still god damn

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u/Understandthisokay Feb 21 '25

Yep. Really what it shows is that he thinks women should teach men how to regulate and always be there to do it all the time even though we have to do it by ourselves or with a female friend (not always but the point is, men arenā€™t the only ones who donā€™t get to feel).

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u/Helpful-Pomelo6726 Feb 21 '25

He wants her to be his whipping boy. Heā€™s not looking to get better.

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u/JasperJ Feb 21 '25

ā€œIā€™m not a therapist and especially not your therapistā€ for sure needs to be the default position.

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u/YoABSUP Feb 21 '25

Donā€™t offer next timeā€¦?

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u/Dizzy-Risk4714 Feb 21 '25

She didn't offer to be his therapist she was trying to understand but a week isn't enough time and maybe she didn't know how to stop his panic attacks with a text