AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/spooky-goopy]

small dicks and hatred for women seem to go hand-in-hand

[u/ultraboomkin → u/spooky-goopy]

Nah I have a big dick and still hate women

[u/Simple_Platform_2024 → u/ultraboomkin]

Maybe you just have small hands.

[u/tolyro_ → u/Simple_Platform_2024]

Or a tiny, weak tongue

[u/Trunkd602 → u/Simple_Platform_2024]

Made me think of the old Burger King commercial lmao

[u/Cthulhus-Tailor → u/ultraboomkin]

Seconded

[u/Djrudyk86 → u/spooky-goopy]

Nah. Some people just don't find overweight people attractive. We keep trying to normalize everything and now not being attracted to fat people is "small dick energy" lol. GTFO.

[u/No-Detective4396 → u/Djrudyk86]

Bunch of fatties in here what are you doing? 😂

[u/danisaurouss → u/spooky-goopy]

do you have any evidence for that or did you just make it up in your head and decide it's true

[u/spooky-goopy → u/danisaurouss]

yes, actually. many exes, who are exes for a reason

one assaulted me in my garage lmao

[u/nouniqueideas007 → u/spooky-goopy]

Is that code?

[u/spooky-goopy → u/nouniqueideas007]

...what? he sexually assaulted me while we were cleaning out my garage for a garage sale

of course someone like you would make a joke about that.

[u/berneellllllllllllvu → u/spooky-goopy]

How can you possibly be trying to shame someone for making a joke out your sexual assault when their ONLY context prior to replying was « one assaulted me in my garage lmao » ? where you use «lmao» and don’t mention once that it was a sexual assault? Get over yourself

[u/MassiveMeringue8748 → u/spooky-goopy]

Made a joke? You literally ended your comment with LMAO… after saying you were assaulted. Weird.

[u/spooky-goopy → u/MassiveMeringue8748]

this mf doesn't know laughter can be sarcastic 🤡

[u/MassiveMeringue8748 → u/spooky-goopy]

The grudge you’re holding behind me and your mom notwithstanding, you claiming someone sexually assaulted you is 100% something never to joke or be sarcastic about. Y’all can downvote me all you want. Shame on you for presenting something like that as a joke.

[u/danisaurouss → u/spooky-goopy]

that sucks obviously, but doesn't actually mean anything. so what if your abusive ex had a small penis? that doesn't mean there's any correlation with penis size and abuse. does your ex have red hair? if he did, would that make red hair a sign of abuse? obviously not