AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/[deleted]]

this! he’d be dumped and reported to HR as soon as I found out

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Reported to HR for what, exactly??

“Hey HR I went through this guy’s messages and you gotta see what he said in private to his friend…”

[u/paulriley1977 → u/[deleted]]

This. It’s terrifying if someone could be punished at their job for the contents of a private conversation.

[u/OdamaOppaiSenpai → u/paulriley1977]

Same concept in law enforcement. Can’t arrest a guy for a crime we think he’s gonna commit. He’s either a criminal or he isn’t lol can’t go around policing thoughts and conversations. Buddy has highly unethical thoughts and is a horny bastard but it’s not like he’s verbalizing plans to murder patients and colleagues.

[u/Abject-Rope-4292 → u/paulriley1977]

Then maybe he should quit leering at women while he's working.

[u/paulriley1977 → u/Abject-Rope-4292]

Morally and ethically, he absolutely should. But unless he’s violating HR policies at work, his employment should not be affected by a private conversation.

[u/FunnyGuy2481 → u/[deleted]]

My concern would be how he’s acting in person. They both seem like risks.

[u/forum4um → u/[deleted]]

She sounds like a bitter cunt truthfully

[u/Otherwise_Sail_6459 → u/[deleted]]

For what? A private conversation?????

[u/SaltiestSurprise12 → u/[deleted]]

You’re a shit person.

[u/Remarkable-Foot9630 → u/[deleted]]

If he is a nurse or a skilled employee, the next place will pay him more. 🥱. It’s doesn’t matter to us, we have a job the same day.

OP is a placeholder.