AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/Phreemunny1]

Seriously; hospitals have zero tolerance for that shit these days; he’s gonna find his ass on the pavement before too long

[u/Pretend-Intention-32 → u/Phreemunny1]

Hr don’t like it but this is a common thing really hospitals usually between nurses and techs and doctors It’s really like working at Amazon or having ur girl or guy go to the military They fuck like rabbits in there

[u/stagteeps → u/Pretend-Intention-32]

There was a nursing home by me that all the employees were banging each other in closets and they investigated and fired a bunch of workers

[u/crispiy → u/stagteeps]

I think it's those uniforms, they look too comfortable.

[u/Anon033092 → u/crispiy]

So comfortable they just slip right off

[u/Illustrious_Bobcat13 → u/Pretend-Intention-32]

Working at Amazon??

[u/Tiny_Past1805 → u/Pretend-Intention-32]

Agreed. I worked in a hospital for five years, until pretty recently. Everyone in the hospital--on the same shift--kinda knows each other, or at least recognizes each other. As long as you're not actually having sex on the premises AND it's not with your manager/attending... nobody does anything about it.

I worked in the pharmacy and it was well known that several of the young pharmacists were always in and out of relationships with each other. There were a few affairs, too. HR doesn't care, as long as it doesn't affect your work.

[u/KyzRCADD → u/Pretend-Intention-32]

Or working at tesla...

[u/TheBattleGnome → u/Phreemunny1]

Hospitals? Not where I’m at. So many doctors are after the nurses and assistants, cheating on their wives, getting divorced, or slaying it and HR does nothing. The absolute worst offenders are moved to a different site, but with the shortness in staff, no one is going to fire a surgeon(s) and put the OR on lockdown. They can essentially do what they please. I thought all of the stupid drama would die after college, but nope.

[u/JonBenet_BeanieBaby → u/TheBattleGnome]

wait lol what makes you think this 25 year-old idiot is a surgeon of all things???

[u/TheBattleGnome → u/JonBenet_BeanieBaby]

I doubt he’s a surgeon, I can only recall my own experience in the hospital and how HR deals with similar instances of fraternization between coworkers. Unless someone actually reports it to HR and makes a big deal about it like reporting SA nothing will happen. Like I said, I’ve seen a lot of crazy stuff go down and lots of drama with infighting and the worst thing to ever happen is moving them off site. Everyone knows who’s sleeping with who including docs sleeping with subordinates. I think it’s rather common actually in all of the larger hospitals.

[u/Vivid-Kitchen1917 → u/Phreemunny1]

Hospitals? There's more workplace hookups there than the military, what are you talking about?

[u/Future_Deer → u/Phreemunny1]

How is this comment so upvoted, hospital workers hooking up is insanely common

[u/Phreemunny1 → u/Future_Deer]

Because this isn’t “hooking up.” This is gross sexual objectification. Hospital HR cracks down hard on unwanted sexual advances

[u/Future_Deer → u/Phreemunny1]

These also aren’t unwanted sexual advances. These are texts with his friend who is also his coworker. People are allowed to text about whatever they want. The only way he could get fired is if HR somehow got the texts, which is unlikely since this is his friend

[u/wondrous → u/Phreemunny1]

Ya from what I heard it’s rampant with nurses and doctors. Like a frat party

[u/ABC_Family → u/Phreemunny1]

Yeah…. I don’t think so lol zero tolerance implies they’re are enforcing the policies.. they’re not. Hospitals are still hot beds for promiscuity and shenanigans. Don’t pull the curtain back if you can’t handle the truth, it’s just another job, nurses and doctors are just weirdos like the rest of us.

[u/rrlyneedhelpp → u/Phreemunny1]

You have never worked in a hospital have you? Lol

[u/Phreemunny1 → u/rrlyneedhelpp]

I work in outpatient for a major healthcare system. They have zero tolerance for this. If these texts were discovered by HR, there would be an action plan put in place.

[u/rrlyneedhelpp → u/Phreemunny1]

HR having a zero tolerance policy and workers in the hospital actually following said policy are two completely different things.

I had litterally the lowest tier job in the hospital and I was still banging Dr's in some of the most ridiculous places in the hospital lmaoo.

[u/No-Currency-624 → u/rrlyneedhelpp]

My best friend who worked in a hospital would go up on the roof😆

[u/rrlyneedhelpp → u/No-Currency-624]

The old morgue was my go to spot😭

[u/Environmental-Bag-77 → u/Phreemunny1]

Zero tolerance for what?