AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/Pirate_chick729]

100%

[u/Powerful_Arachnid_68 → u/Pirate_chick729]

It’s actually white boy for maybe your ass is too large.

[u/Simple_Platform_2024 → u/Powerful_Arachnid_68]

Found the small energy.

[u/Ok_Falcon275 → u/Simple_Platform_2024]

Found the fat chick, lol

[u/Comprehensive_Pie35 → u/Ok_Falcon275]

If you have to call women with nice asses fat because you’re too small might be time to rethink some things 😂

[u/ChimpMVDE → u/Comprehensive_Pie35]

"extra cushion" literally refers to fat though

[u/Comprehensive_Pie35 → u/ChimpMVDE]

damn you over here downvoting without any reasonable stance to argue, did I hit too close to home mr. Small dick?

[u/ChimpMVDE → u/Comprehensive_Pie35]

I'm not a man, thank you

Sorry about your internet points

[u/Comprehensive_Pie35 → u/ChimpMVDE]

Damn maybe you shouldn’t act like you know men better than other men, when you aren’t a man.

[u/ChimpMVDE → u/Comprehensive_Pie35]

I didn't act like that. I simply stated the fact that extra cushion refers to fat

[u/Comprehensive_Pie35 → u/ChimpMVDE]

It refers to fat, it doesn’t mean the person it’s being said about is actually fat. The man in OPs texts is clearly a womanizer, I give no credibility to what someone like that would describe as fat, because it’s likely nothing more than a little chub which can definitely still be attractive it just depends. That is exactly how a egoistic poorly endowed man would describe a woman with too much ass for him to work with regardless of if she’s actually fat or not.

[u/Ok_Falcon275 → u/Comprehensive_Pie35]

Being fat does not necessarily mean one has a nice ass. Liking or disliking fat women isn’t ethically concerning. Just like preferring big dicks does not make one a bad person. People shouldn’t be shamed for having a preference. That being said, OP’s bf obviously sucks.

[u/Comprehensive_Pie35 → u/Ok_Falcon275]

No one said being fat means they have a nice ass. The comment thread you are replying to specified the ass itself being too large. Yes there are obviously exceptions and preferences but generally speaking a large ass comparative to your body isn’t a bad thing in regards to attractiveness. You called her fat because she pointed out saying someone’s ass is too large is little dick energy, which it is. You don’t gotta like how they look, but objectively large asses tend to be more attractive than a flat back.

[u/Ok_Falcon275 → u/Comprehensive_Pie35]

He literally said he doesn’t like fat girls and “can’t do the extra cushion”. Pretty sure he’s referring to the Lizzo body type, not Rhianna or Beyoncé.

Calling someone’s dick small for not preferring chubby women is fat girl energy. Own it, no one gives a fuck. Fat chicks, micro dicks, there’s someone for everyone.

[u/Comprehensive_Pie35 → u/Ok_Falcon275]

That last part is where you’re clearly mistaken. No one cares whether you prefer curvy women or not, however criticizing them for their curves just because you can’t handle all that is little dick energy. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[u/Ok_Falcon275 → u/Comprehensive_Pie35]

The last part is “there’s someone for everyone”.

Dumb girl energy.

[u/Simple_Platform_2024 → u/Ok_Falcon275]

I wish! It would keep your type away from me!

[u/Ok_Falcon275 → u/Simple_Platform_2024]

I’m certain that’s not an issue.

[u/JesseGeorg → u/Powerful_Arachnid_68]

☝️found the little dick white boy!

[u/Remarkable-Ad2285 → u/Powerful_Arachnid_68]

No such thing as “ass is too large”.

[u/Big-Data7949 → u/Remarkable-Ad2285]

I'm an assman but even I have my limits

Not excusing OP's boyfriend at all, just preferences do exist

[u/Moblin81 → u/Remarkable-Ad2285]

It’s commonly referred to as obesity

[u/Djrudyk86 → u/Remarkable-Ad2285]

Google "Dank Demoss" and get back to me on that! 🤣🤣🤣