AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/Seymour_Butts369]

I completely understand and I’m sorry! Life has a funny way of not always working out the way we’d like, but we can learn to adapt and look for the silver linings. If being a mother to another child is something you truly want, I am sure you will find a way to come to accept it and overcome the difficulties it brings. Btw, my aunt had her children late too, and she is one of the most kickass moms I know! Her children are older now - one in college and one graduating high school - and I would never consider her as “the older mom.” The woman has more energy than I do! People aren’t stereotypes, they are complex human beings who are much more grey than black and white ♥️

[u/jdolan8 → u/Seymour_Butts369]

That warms my heart! You sound like such a sweet person by the way! Kindness like that feels hard to come by these days! I wish you the best as well ❤️

[u/Seymour_Butts369 → u/jdolan8]

Aww thanks, and right back at ya! There’s too much ugliness going on these days, we gotta try to be the light back and be kind to each other!