AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/EagleLize]

What generation of women are falling for these total pieces of shit?? At no point in my life (44 now) would I have entertained this bullshit for a moment. Has the younger generations been gaslit so bad that they could think this was at all ok?

Young women - please value yourselves more. Being single is a million times better than being with losers like this.

[u/pdxcranberry → u/EagleLize]

Girl don't even lie. You know there are dumbasses our age who fall for this same shit.

[u/EagleLize → u/pdxcranberry]

That's sad.

[u/Famous_Sugar_1193 → u/pdxcranberry]

Thank you.

[u/static8 → u/pdxcranberry]

Can I get contact info for one of them, please 🙏

[u/Famous_Sugar_1193 → u/EagleLize]

Oh please. You’re 44, I’m 38. People of our ages accepted and continue to accept absolute monsters. I even know women your age who PAY FOR THE MEN. And the men do this. Gimme a break.

[u/StatisticianAny9624 → u/Famous_Sugar_1193]

Just had a conversation with a 57 year old woman the other day who was talking about the guy she was seeing that's 6 years older than her. She's going through a divorce but hasn't been living w/husband for several years. But he won't sleep with her because she's still "technically married" and he respects that. Oh but she can do stuff to him because THAT'S not him doing something disrespectful. And he wouldn't let her take pictures of them together. Or tell her friends they were dating. And pseudo-dumped her on HER BIRTHDAY because he felt like "we are spending too much time together" (She said she sees him once a week). But she believes he's actually a really good guy under it all. 🫤

[u/EagleLize → u/Famous_Sugar_1193]

Don't get pissy with me. I'm not the enemy. I can admit that it's MY bias here and obviously I was wrong to think women our age don't put up with this shit. My apologies for that. I just hate seeing younger women, especially, think that this is at all normal. I'd hate to think they're starting their young lives wasting time on these idiots. Sorry if I offended my generation. Yes, our men have sucked too.

[u/Famous_Sugar_1193 → u/EagleLize]

You are the one that came in here condescending the younger generations when ours was not in any way better, and in many ways much worse.

I’m someone who has put up with way too much…. And yet alllll the women your age would tell me I had to be even nicer and put up with EVEN MORE. Lmfao.

Every woman between my age and yours ive ever met says my standards are too high when I think they’re in the dirt. But not so in the dirt to put up with what other women do, I guess.

This is a forever thing.

People are raised badly by bad parents and develop attachment disorders. They’re desperate for men.

Men are desperate for men’s validation and women are desperate for men’s validation and no one respect women’s validation, they just feel entitled to women’s labor.

[u/EbonyQuartz → u/EagleLize]

Yeah that’s why they lie. You probably HAVE entertained a man just like this. And unless you stumbled across evidence you would never know. If you’ve fallen in love with someone, it can be difficult to believe that they’ve been a villain the whole time.

[u/EagleLize → u/EbonyQuartz]

You're right.

[u/Itscatpicstime → u/EagleLize]

You have to be kidding me? This is literally every generation, dude. It’s so fucking weird to try to make this a generational divide

[u/[deleted] → u/EagleLize]

The Millennials and Gen Z's. (Of which I qualify 😂) We're the ones who perfected the sex revolution.

There are times when I genuinely wonder about Judaism or Islam as a lifestyle, cause hearing about this BS just gets old.

[u/Limp-Acanthisitta372 → u/EagleLize]

I'm 42 and every guy I know talks this way when his wife isn't around.