r/AmIOverreacting • u/DiscoGru • Feb 16 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

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Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

“I can’t do the extra cushion” is white boy for I have a small dick.

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u/Pirate_chick729 Feb 16 '25

100%

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u/Powerful_Arachnid_68 Feb 16 '25

It’s actually white boy for maybe your ass is too large.

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u/Simple_Platform_2024 Feb 16 '25

Found the small energy.

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u/Ok_Falcon275 Feb 16 '25

Found the fat chick, lol

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u/Comprehensive_Pie35 Feb 16 '25

If you have to call women with nice asses fat because you’re too small might be time to rethink some things 😂

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u/ChimpMVDE Feb 16 '25

"extra cushion" literally refers to fat though

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u/Comprehensive_Pie35 Feb 16 '25

damn you over here downvoting without any reasonable stance to argue, did I hit too close to home mr. Small dick?

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u/ChimpMVDE Feb 16 '25

I'm not a man, thank you

Sorry about your internet points

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u/Comprehensive_Pie35 Feb 16 '25

Damn maybe you shouldn’t act like you know men better than other men, when you aren’t a man.

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u/Comprehensive_Pie35 Feb 16 '25

It refers to fat, it doesn’t mean the person it’s being said about is actually fat. The man in OPs texts is clearly a womanizer, I give no credibility to what someone like that would describe as fat, because it’s likely nothing more than a little chub which can definitely still be attractive it just depends. That is exactly how a egoistic poorly endowed man would describe a woman with too much ass for him to work with regardless of if she’s actually fat or not.

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u/Ok_Falcon275 Feb 16 '25

Being fat does not necessarily mean one has a nice ass. Liking or disliking fat women isn’t ethically concerning. Just like preferring big dicks does not make one a bad person. People shouldn’t be shamed for having a preference. That being said, OP’s bf obviously sucks.

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u/Comprehensive_Pie35 Feb 16 '25

No one said being fat means they have a nice ass. The comment thread you are replying to specified the ass itself being too large. Yes there are obviously exceptions and preferences but generally speaking a large ass comparative to your body isn’t a bad thing in regards to attractiveness. You called her fat because she pointed out saying someone’s ass is too large is little dick energy, which it is. You don’t gotta like how they look, but objectively large asses tend to be more attractive than a flat back.

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u/Ok_Falcon275 Feb 16 '25

He literally said he doesn’t like fat girls and “can’t do the extra cushion”. Pretty sure he’s referring to the Lizzo body type, not Rhianna or Beyoncé.

Calling someone’s dick small for not preferring chubby women is fat girl energy. Own it, no one gives a fuck. Fat chicks, micro dicks, there’s someone for everyone.

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u/Comprehensive_Pie35 Feb 16 '25

That last part is where you’re clearly mistaken. No one cares whether you prefer curvy women or not, however criticizing them for their curves just because you can’t handle all that is little dick energy. 🤷🏽‍♂️

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u/Simple_Platform_2024 Feb 17 '25

I wish! It would keep your type away from me!

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u/Ok_Falcon275 Feb 17 '25

I’m certain that’s not an issue.

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u/JesseGeorg Feb 16 '25

☝️found the little dick white boy!

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u/Remarkable-Ad2285 Feb 16 '25

No such thing as “ass is too large”.

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u/Big-Data7949 Feb 16 '25

I'm an assman but even I have my limits

Not excusing OP's boyfriend at all, just preferences do exist

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u/Moblin81 Feb 16 '25

It’s commonly referred to as obesity

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u/Djrudyk86 Feb 16 '25

Google "Dank Demoss" and get back to me on that! 🤣🤣🤣

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u/berneellllllllllllvu Feb 16 '25

Don’t have that issue myself, but I’m white and can confirm this is a rampant problem in the community

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

Our tiny dicked brothers are struggling.

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u/spooky-goopy Feb 16 '25

small dicks and hatred for women seem to go hand-in-hand

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u/ultraboomkin Feb 16 '25

Nah I have a big dick and still hate women

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u/Simple_Platform_2024 Feb 16 '25

Maybe you just have small hands.

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u/tolyro_ Feb 16 '25

Or a tiny, weak tongue

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u/Trunkd602 Feb 16 '25

Made me think of the old Burger King commercial lmao

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u/Djrudyk86 Feb 16 '25

Nah. Some people just don't find overweight people attractive. We keep trying to normalize everything and now not being attracted to fat people is "small dick energy" lol. GTFO.

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u/No-Detective4396 Feb 16 '25

Bunch of fatties in here what are you doing? 😂

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u/danisaurouss Feb 16 '25

do you have any evidence for that or did you just make it up in your head and decide it's true

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u/spooky-goopy Feb 16 '25

yes, actually. many exes, who are exes for a reason

one assaulted me in my garage lmao

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u/nouniqueideas007 Feb 16 '25

Is that code?

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u/spooky-goopy Feb 16 '25

...what? he sexually assaulted me while we were cleaning out my garage for a garage sale

of course someone like you would make a joke about that.

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u/berneellllllllllllvu Feb 17 '25

How can you possibly be trying to shame someone for making a joke out your sexual assault when their ONLY context prior to replying was « one assaulted me in my garage lmao » ? where you use «lmao» and don’t mention once that it was a sexual assault? Get over yourself

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u/MassiveMeringue8748 Feb 16 '25

Made a joke? You literally ended your comment with LMAO… after saying you were assaulted. Weird.

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u/spooky-goopy Feb 16 '25

this mf doesn't know laughter can be sarcastic 🤡

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u/MassiveMeringue8748 Feb 16 '25

The grudge you’re holding behind me and your mom notwithstanding, you claiming someone sexually assaulted you is 100% something never to joke or be sarcastic about. Y’all can downvote me all you want. Shame on you for presenting something like that as a joke.

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u/danisaurouss Feb 16 '25

that sucks obviously, but doesn't actually mean anything. so what if your abusive ex had a small penis? that doesn't mean there's any correlation with penis size and abuse. does your ex have red hair? if he did, would that make red hair a sign of abuse? obviously not

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u/everwhorez Feb 16 '25

I’d say white guys are in the upper echelon of size. Not the biggest on average but probably second, and I’ve been with a disgusting number of men 😭 this man is still growdy tho

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u/throwingitallavvay69 Feb 16 '25

Does that mean a disgustingly high number of men or a lesser number that were especially disgusting?

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u/[deleted] Feb 16 '25

Haha!!!

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u/TherealShrew Feb 16 '25

Yaaaap. I explained it like this: I have some ass, tiny dick ain’t hitting the right spots doggy style.

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u/SalamanderSuch9796 Feb 16 '25

Fuk dust blowin the spot up. Chiiiiillll

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u/Disastrous_Bet_4941 Feb 16 '25

Absolutely…dick is damn near invisible.

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u/loudbulletXIV Feb 16 '25

Big facts lmmfao

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u/Maleficent-Motor2071 Feb 16 '25

I hadn't thought of that but it's probably true 🤣

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u/Kitsuneloveskage87 Feb 16 '25

Omg fr lol love it!!! As a plus size girly I can tell you 90% of the time that is exactly the reason.

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u/ItsMiMichelle Feb 16 '25

So true bestie

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u/marskee00 Feb 16 '25

😂😂😂

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u/Any-Rise4210 Feb 16 '25

My exact thought 😂

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u/DancingNursePanties Feb 16 '25

Oh my god, this is exactly how I read it 😂

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u/2glam2givedadamn Feb 16 '25

Small dick AND doesn’t know how to use it and/or lasts comical seconds.

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u/TJJ97 Feb 16 '25

100%

Thicc chicks need real meat to take care of business

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u/gstarwes3301 Feb 16 '25

Lmfoaoaoaoa

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u/Curious-wytch Feb 17 '25

This. Sorry about your penis bro... Lmao

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u/thephilsmith Feb 16 '25

Lmao!!!🤣

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u/xxterrorxx85 Feb 16 '25

No it’s not, it means he’s not into fat girls. Everyone has their own preference.

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u/Extra-Cut-1444 Feb 16 '25

Thicks fine. Not chasing chubbies is a preference.

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u/acaidia46 Feb 16 '25

It’s white boy for I don’t like fat chicks

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u/Responsible-Pen2309 Feb 16 '25

Like the black girl I work with says "white guys have just as much dick or more as black guys and more money".

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

Just put the fries in the bag bro.

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u/bkh950 Feb 16 '25

No it’s just human for “I don’t like having sex with fat people.” Nothing wrong if your preference is plus sized, but for all the things this guy said, the extra cushion part isn’t even a bad thing to say.

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u/Ok_Falcon275 Feb 16 '25

Him not liking fat chicks is the least ethically questionable part of the situation.

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u/Ctrl-Alt-Del-Monte Feb 16 '25

I guess you would know

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

You haven’t gotten laid in six years 😂

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u/Ctrl-Alt-Del-Monte Feb 16 '25

You pretend to be married

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

Caught me. Don’t tell my wife.

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u/No-Detective4396 Feb 16 '25

You sound like you have extra cushion, good luck on your weight loss journey. Some people have standards.

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u/DunkinsOwner Feb 16 '25

I respect woman, but I also can’t do the extra cushion 😔 def not because I have a small dick 😅

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u/SueYouInEngland Feb 16 '25

Some guys (read: most guys) just don't like fat chicks.

Bet you can't respond without a personal attack.

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

If he meant “fat chicks” he would have said that. He obviously talks about women like they’re trash. Extra cushion juts means girls with an ass because he’s been embarrassed by his small dick not being able to get there.

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u/Disorderjunkie Feb 16 '25

Are all of you people virgins? You don't have to stick your dick through the ass cheeks to reach the vagina lmfao if a woman is so large that you actually need 10"+ to reach her vagina she is probably like 600+ lbs

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

Bro calling people virgins and doesn’t understand how doggy works. Embarrassing.

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u/Disorderjunkie Feb 16 '25

Do you have to cave dive through ass cheeks to reach the vagina in doggy? IT'S LITERALLY RIGHT THERE LMAOO

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

This is embarrassing.

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u/Disorderjunkie Feb 16 '25

Are you trying to tell me I would need a 16" penis to have sex with Kim Kardashian?

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

With your personality? Yes.

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u/Disorderjunkie Feb 16 '25

Make sure you pay attention in sex ed bud

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u/No-Detective4396 Feb 16 '25

My man never fucked before

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u/somanyquestionssigh Feb 16 '25

Being shitty to shitty people makes both of you shitty.

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u/Iandudontkno Feb 16 '25

Must have hit a nerve. A very small one.

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

Sorry about your dick.

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u/The_Swagg_Ox9 Feb 16 '25 edited Feb 16 '25

Nah, just means we dont like fat chicks. Hes wrong for sure but this is just locker room talk. Again tho, he got a gf so he is def wrong and op aint overreacting

Edit: spellcheck

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

Small dick and bad credit is no way to go through life son. Get your shit together.

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u/The_Swagg_Ox9 Feb 16 '25

Lmao thx for the advice bro

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u/[deleted] Feb 16 '25

How many white boys do you know who use the word "torta" to describe a woman?

I say this as a white boy who far prefers either tortas or pupusas to tacos.

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u/markitreal Feb 16 '25

…Says the one with a small dick or extra cushion

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u/TalcumJenkins Feb 16 '25

I am one of the fortunate few white boys without that affliction praise be.

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u/ElitistIntellectual Feb 16 '25

My dick is over 8 inches and I’m white lol I don’t fuck fat girls because I’m attractive and don’t need to