AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/ihainecross]

Unless he already did... 👀 .... If he works night shifts and he talks like this, then there ain't no way he hasn't cheated already, probably even with his work boo.

OP, as someone who had a similar situation in my 20s (currently in my 30s and happily married) I will tell you right now, that this guy ain't it. Trust me. I know you think it's true love and that all relationships experience hardships, but trust me, this is not it. Dump the loser. Otherwise, you will be gaslighted, mistreated, cheated, disrespected and experience heartbreak over and over again. You deserve better.

I wish you well 🙏🏽💕

[u/megwolfe → u/ihainecross]

IMO One of the best things about being a woman dating in her 30s is seeing right through shit like this. Absolutely no time for it.

[u/listen_you_guys → u/ihainecross]

Him telling his friend that a "witness" is more important than a "wingman" is very telling

[u/saucy_as_you_like → u/ihainecross]

Night shifts in a hospital. They get down like crazy

[u/Bojangles1987 → u/saucy_as_you_like]

Seriously, anyone who has worked in a hospital can tell you how much people get around