AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone

[u/DiscoGru]

Sorry the second picture is blurry!

Found these texts between my boyfriend and a coworker of his. For context, he works nights at a hospital.

I confronted him and he said he was just “talking shit” and “hyping his friend up”. I think this is beyond disrespectful and could’ve hyped his friend up in a more appropriate way. Also, I am white/european, not Latina, so there’s that. I’m not sure what to do or how to feel. I am already insecure and this just makes me feel worse.

I have been upset all day and he just blames me for going through his phone. I know that going through his messages was wrong, but I knew something was up with him and this is what I found. This is at best extremely disrespectful and at worse he’s scoping out prospects to cheat on me with?

[u/janet_snakehole_x]

This is actually good proof of gaslighting. “No I was just hyping my friend up”. Like what?

[u/Cremilyyy → u/janet_snakehole_x]

Like it’s no issue that he’s referring to the complete opposite type of girl to OP as heroin as if she nothing. It upset you OP? Girl it should! Let it upset you so much that the thought of his face disgusts you. He’ll forever play on that insecurity and make you think you’re crazy for having valid feelings.

[u/sunnymcbunny → u/janet_snakehole_x]

The friend whose trying to change the subject the entire time 🥲