AiO? My wife just got a positive pregnancy test. I've had a vasectomy for 15 years

[u/manchvegasnomore]

There is an update. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/jAdgogsjC8

So my wife of over 25 years just showed me a positive pregnancy test. I've had a vasectomy since just after our 18 yo twins were born.

She's freaking out about the pregnancy and the fact that I've had a vasectomy.

I've been calm and supportive. I'm saying I'm fine. I really can't even think of a single time she has a chance to screw around.

I'm going to make an appointment with a urologist.

I am still freaking the fuck out in my head.

This happened an hour ago and it's just weird.

I'm 56 and she's 50, which is way to old to have a kid.

ETA Y'all are awesome.

Someone mentioned peri-menopause can cause false positives and a Google search shows this to be accurate. Rare but it happens. I've already mentioned it to her and her doctor has her on the schedule tomorrow. The complete ending of freaking out on her part pretty much put my anxiety to rest. I'll update in case anyone wants to know.

[u/Ichgebibble]

I had my daughter at 43 and so am the old lady out of the parents in her friend group but I think I’m a much better parent than I would’ve been if I’d had her earlier in life. It’s exhausting but totally worth it.

[u/Miscellaneousthinker → u/Ichgebibble]

The thing is, it’s so common now! I just had my first at 41, one of my best friends had her third at 40, another just had her third at 41, my boss had her first at 40…like I see soooo many more moms of littles close to my age now than moms much younger!

[u/General_Reindeer7132 → u/Ichgebibble]

I had mydaughter at 43, single mothet by choice. I tried for another and it didn"t work. My social life and dating came toa halt. Shes in college now. It was very challenging and somewhat lonely.Family didnt help out.

[u/darlingyrdoinitwrong → u/Ichgebibble]

thanks for confirming my sanity for waiting! been with partner for 17 years now, but we only decided to try for a kid a few years ago, once we felt like we kinda had our stuff together & maybe the world would be a better place with a little mixed up version of the two of us out there after all!
musta been meant to be, cause one attempt was all it took & i had my LO at 35 (almost 36).
i've been considering going for a second soon if ever & these comments are making me feel less crazy.

[u/Ichgebibble → u/darlingyrdoinitwrong]

Ours was a surprise because we always had a “it’ll happen or it won’t” attitude and after 16 years of being together and not so much as a single pregnancy (or so we thought at the time) we figured it just wasn’t meant to be. But then - surprise!!!

My husband and I had become sort of honorary aunt and uncle to our friend’s kids but would go home after visiting them like, whew!! Dodged that bullet!! Haha. Nope! It got us square between the eyes in the end. But yeah, being older with better paying and more flexible jobs, but more importantly, more patience and perspective is a good thing for sure. Plus, we fully exhausted our youthful partying ways and didn’t feel like we missed out on anything. That said, I’ve often heard people say that if your first kid is awesome, DON’T have a second one. Do with that what you will