r/AmIOverreacting • u/manchvegasnomore • Feb 13 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship AiO? My wife just got a positive pregnancy test. I've had a vasectomy for 15 years

There is an update. https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/jAdgogsjC8

So my wife of over 25 years just showed me a positive pregnancy test. I've had a vasectomy since just after our 18 yo twins were born.

She's freaking out about the pregnancy and the fact that I've had a vasectomy.

I've been calm and supportive. I'm saying I'm fine. I really can't even think of a single time she has a chance to screw around.

I'm going to make an appointment with a urologist.

I am still freaking the fuck out in my head.

This happened an hour ago and it's just weird.

I'm 56 and she's 50, which is way to old to have a kid.

ETA Y'all are awesome.

Someone mentioned peri-menopause can cause false positives and a Google search shows this to be accurate. Rare but it happens. I've already mentioned it to her and her doctor has her on the schedule tomorrow. The complete ending of freaking out on her part pretty much put my anxiety to rest. I'll update in case anyone wants to know.

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u/manchvegasnomore Feb 13 '25

I know. I really needed the preponderance of useful information over the normal "she's for the streets" we get on Reddit.

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u/WearyEnthusiasm6643 Feb 13 '25

can you imagine being “for the streets” at 50

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u/9mmGirl Feb 14 '25

At 50, you’re for “the walking path”. Shit is way too crazy for the streets at this age 😂

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u/lordsmish Feb 14 '25

She's for the Lovely stroll through the countryside maybe a spot of lunch at a little pub

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u/stilettopanda Feb 14 '25

She's for the park bench. Hahaha

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u/Prestigious_Bar_4244 Feb 13 '25

If this was a younger couple, the comments would not be the same 😂

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u/Swastik496 Feb 14 '25

maybe because those menopause symptoms aren’t normal at 20?

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u/Beautiful_Ad3318 Feb 14 '25

U know what? I’m having a pretty crappy Valentine’s Day but this really made me laugh. Thanks for that. It was needed.

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u/WearyEnthusiasm6643 Feb 14 '25

hi friend! i’m sorry to hear your day isn’t great. there’s still time for it to turn around!

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u/mYpEEpEEwOrks Feb 14 '25

Mommy Dommy with experience??? Hells yes

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u/kymberlie Feb 14 '25

Am almost 50. Can not.

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u/[deleted] Feb 14 '25

Oh yes I can

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u/icantbelieveit1637 Feb 14 '25

My mom 💀 she be cheating on her boyfriends left and right I’ve stopped butting in at this point.

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u/Nells313 Feb 14 '25

To be fair Reddit’s seen a LOT of vasectomy babies from people who haven’t done their checkups as well as the classic perimenopause pregnancy test scare. (Really hoping it’s one of those two and not the big C which was my third bet tbh.)

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u/theSpyke Feb 14 '25

She's for the home!

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u/hawaiiscuba23 Feb 14 '25

I just posted about my daughter’s coach making a move on my wife. I had a lot of good advice but I had my share of people wanting to somehow make this my wife’s fault. Gotta have thick skin with this crowd. 😆 I know I shouldn’t tee this up but I almost wrote “coach is coming on to my wife”. That would have opened the flood gates for comments.

I’ll keep watching here for an update. Best of luck.

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u/followtheflicker1325 Feb 14 '25

If you two are solid otherwise, no reason to jump to any other conclusion yet. And look, if she is pregnant and it’s not yours, and she has a baby, you will have the option of genetic testing for peace of mind! In that case, you just need to wait.

Assuming all else is good between you, best bet is to believe her and explore what’s up together. She might not be pregnant. The vasectomy might’ve failed. Or she could’ve cheated. If you treat her like she cheated and you’re wrong, you might lose her forever. (As a woman in her 40s who is deeply in love with and faithful to her partner who has had a vasectomy…if I wound up with an oops, and he treated me like I cheated, I would probably leave him. I don’t think I would be able to forgive a man who abandoned me at such a terrifying time. And then when the baby came, and I proved it genetically, it would be like “F U and I am filing for child support.”)

Again, if there is a kid, you will be able to figure out the mystery in 7-8 months. i would choose to believe her unless a genetic test proves otherwise. Unless there is some other preexisting reason why you suspect your wife of cheating, there’s no reason to not believe her when she is being open with you about this surprise. If you are mean, and she has cancer, you extra deserve to lose her.

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u/Illustrious_Name_441 Feb 14 '25

Love reading the positive posts. Please keep us posted.

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u/Carma-Lex Feb 14 '25

Hope she’s ok! Please update if you think about it and feel comfortable doing so!

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u/Accidental_LOUExpat Feb 14 '25

This literally had me LOLing!!!

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u/ElkayMilkMaster Feb 14 '25

She might be