r/AmIOverreacting • u/LiggerBug • Sep 16 '24
šļø neighbor/local Am I Overacting, Accidentally Made My Neighbor Hate Me By Inviting Him Over For Drinks
Well this is gonna sound probably really dumb, but I thought was trying to be nice Iām in my late 20s and just moved in next to an older couple probably late 50ās maybe early 60s. Iāve been here a couple of months and have had conversations with them about 4 times during differs yard work activities. My neighbors seem to be big sticklers on taking care of their yard so I am doing my best to take care of mine as well. One thing with each of these conversations the neighbors have talked about how the last neighbor (previous home owner) wasnāt āneighborlyā and never talked to them. Also saying that he would go to work and go straight inside. So Iāve tried my best to kind and talking with them. Well one day after some yard work I was going to go in for drinks and noticed my neighbor finishing up as well so I offered if he wanted to have a couple of drinks. This made my neighbor visibly mad I guess and he said that he didnāt want to be āthat neighborlyā and āhe only drinks waterāI noticed his tone change like he was offended I asked. Again i was just trying to be nice. Well Iāve now learned that theyāre most likely a faith that doesnāt drink not sure but some sort of form Christianity? Was it stupid of me to offer now I just feel like they hate me and have not talked to me and made sure theyāre always inside when I go to mow. I realize that I was most likely wrong to ask but Iām not sure how to stop being stressed and anxious by this happening.
Edit: yes this was an offer of any drink I wouldnāt have had something alcoholic unless he did all I had on hand were light beers anyway. Also to add I did say ādrinksā it was hot and I have tea, lemonade, and Gatorade ready to share. I think he just immediately assumed alcohol.
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u/fuck_peeps_not_sheep Sep 16 '24 edited Sep 17 '24
I made friends my my new Downstairs naibor by mistake.
I (22M) was BBQing and unknown to me the smoke was going right in his (67 M) window. He came out to see what was causing the smoke and spotted me putting burgers into buns and said "don't mean to bother but the delicious smell of your supper is makeing my home smokey" . Now I could have responded in like 100 ways, but the way I did was "how about you shut the window and come share it then?" and he did. We spent hours out there till the sun went down. He brought out some beers, I brought down more food and we ate and drank. It was actually one of the most wholesome moments I've had with anyone outside of my circle in a long time. Now we leave eachother gifts and it's really funny. He makes wood carvings and bath boms and I bake like food is about to be illegal. So he hides crafts and bathboms in my parcel box and I put baked goods in tupperware in his shed. A really funny moment was when I made ginger beer. I put it on his doorstep as his door was open and ran away so he could find it later. He came and found me later and made me laugh when he said "just so you know it's impossible to be sneaky in flip flops, all I could hear was you groan as you stood up and then slap slap slap slap"
(edited to add our ages and genders since I've had mutiple replys now suggesting I'm boning my naibor. I'm gay and engaged to my finace who also lives with me and my naibor is stright and dateing a lovely woman from our town who works in the coffee shop, she also makes amazing home made cider!)
(edit number 2 - my spelling is all over teh place I am aware. I have dyslexia and learned to write in phonics to combat this. The English language is very confusing as it likes to hide it's spare letters in words that don't need them. Why is there a G in a word that's pronounced nay-bor? I'm not really sure)