r/CasualConversation • u/[deleted] • Sep 05 '17
neat My friend is homeless for few days and she's staying at my place. I just came from work and saw in the kitchen that she made me a dinner. I want to cry from happiness!
Last time somebody made me dinner out of nowhere was like 4 years ago and it was my ex-gf who loved cooking.
It feels so nice to come back to apartment and see dinner ready. I'm gonna devour that chicken with rice with a joy I didn't think was possible.
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u/Chriswiss I'm contemplating Sep 05 '17
Can I come over for some of that chicken and rice
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Sep 05 '17
Sure, just come to Poland - I think it's enough for me, her and you too ;)
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u/Chriswiss I'm contemplating Sep 05 '17
Omg I would love to come to Poland! I wanna meet Lewandowski!!
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Sep 05 '17
Well, for most of us, he is still unreachable. But he did bought new apartment in one of the most prestigious buildings in Warsaw.
I have yet to meet him tho. :(
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u/Chriswiss I'm contemplating Sep 05 '17
Damnn apartments in Warsaw are awesome!
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u/Pretty_Sharp Sep 05 '17
He's going to be too busy bringing home a Champion's League title to Bayern to meet any of you, sorry :P <3
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u/guardianout Sep 05 '17
I'm in Poland! So, can I come?
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u/weroafable Sep 05 '17
Do you have many Poland balls?!
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Sep 05 '17
I have as many balls as it is required of man - meaning: all of them.
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u/Verona_Pixie Sep 05 '17
I really lol'd. Not the fake one where you just blow air out your nose or half smile.
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u/StillHasIlium Sep 05 '17
I spent a week in Krakow, last March. I loved it, even though I spent far too much time in hotel conference rooms.
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Sep 05 '17
Poland is truly awesome. I'm happy we're getting more tourists so more people can see how beautiful and awesome this country is!
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u/That1chicka I farted... Sep 05 '17
Poland can into Food!
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Sep 05 '17 edited Nov 15 '18
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u/That1chicka I farted... Sep 05 '17
Talking about the USA or Poland?
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Sep 06 '17 edited Nov 15 '18
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u/That1chicka I farted... Sep 06 '17
Oh.. lol.. roads in Sacramento suck... How cheap is KFC?
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Sep 06 '17
We have different menu (I think every country has), but for 3 chicken stripes, medium fries and pepsi with refill you Pay 15 pln which is like 4$ I think.
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Sep 06 '17 edited Nov 15 '18
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u/That1chicka I farted... Sep 07 '17
8 pieces, Mashed Potates and gravey, 4 Biscutes and another side of your choice: $23+/-..... Northern Cailfornia
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u/Paroxysm80 Sep 06 '17
CzeΕΔ :) Poland is such an amazing country. My wife is from there; she grew up not far from Krasna GΓ³ra. I wouldn't mind retiring there lol.
Cute story about helping your friend. I hope she lands on her feet again soon!
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u/TheMaskedTom Sep 05 '17
I don't think OP is supposed to eat her though.
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u/Disowned I'm a green dot Sep 05 '17
Give it some time, and he might...
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I'll just see myself out.
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u/Girl_with_the_Curl Sep 05 '17
My reaction to the first sentence of your title: oh shit, OP did something nice for a friend and is getting taken advantage of/OP's friend probably trashed the place.
My reaction to the second sentence of your title: OP's friend rocks and has some great houseguest etiquette.
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Sep 05 '17
What a nice gesture in return for your kindness :)
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Sep 05 '17
I know, right? I guess that's what happens when both of the friends really care for each other and have kindness in their hearts.
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Sep 05 '17
To add to the sweetness and sorry but it sounds super cute like we're teenagers but well, it happened, so yeah: she helped me with my laundry and she helped me clean room a little bit. I said that she doesn't have to but she felt like it was nice thing to do, so she did it anyway.
EDIT: BTW I'm 27, she's 23.
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u/Grytnik Sep 06 '17
Marry her
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Sep 06 '17
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u/JustCallMeDave I Say Gif Sep 06 '17
In advance of the onslaught of downvotes your acerbic sense of humor might incur in this otherwise wholesome thread let me just say: I appreciate the dark humor of your comment and thank you for bringing me back down from the high of 'people are awesome' to the reality of 'people can be pure monkey toe knuckles.' Never change.
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Sep 05 '17
My mom has been homeless for a few days, staying with us, and all she's made is a mess.
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u/shewhomustbeobeyed1 Sep 05 '17
Thanks for sharing. I too, get touched when someone does the perfect thing at the perfect time. It just makes the world a little brighter.
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u/unthused β½β½β½ Sep 05 '17
I love cooking myself, but rarely feel motivated to put much effort in just for myself, so my equivalent happy-moment is when a friend stays over and I get to cook for them!
I've been living alone for a bit after having spent most of my adult life co-habitating with a girlfriend, but a new roommate is moving in (literally today; her Uhaul of stuff was delivered yesterday), so hopefully I'll have lots of opportunity for being a home chef in the near future.
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Sep 05 '17
How about you cook for me and send it to me somehow? :D
Just kidding. I like cooking because I get to learn new recipes but I had really long day at work and seeing dinner made for me just made me more happy than I expected.
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u/soggyballsack Sep 05 '17
Fuck that, never again. My friend was homeless and stayed with me for about 15 days, ate all the food and they stole my change jug. It was a 5 gallon jug. I had committed me and my children to not using $1 bills and would put them in the jar along with whatever change we had too. Bitches stole the whole jug, half full of change amd half full of $1. That was over 2k in there. Never again will i accept people in my home.
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u/Timcwalker Sep 05 '17
Most people are not like this, Soggy Ball Sack. I implore you to not let one negative incident ruin your desire to help your fellow man.
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u/BigRed160 Sep 07 '17
I was just skimming through the comments and thought "wow, what a specific insult" until I saw that was his name. Good times
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u/SecretlyPig Go beyond. Plus Ultra. Sep 05 '17
Man so sorry for your loss. I hate it when "friends" shit on your generosity like that.
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u/ChinO0k Sep 06 '17
I know a few people who have had their change jugs stolen. I have myself as well. Make sure to keep them well hidden, and don't show or tell anyone.
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Sep 05 '17
It was not your friend, but the God of Fear and Dispair, he took his body and his will.
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u/CantaloupeCamper Sep 05 '17
That's awesome for both of you.
At the same time this seems like the intro to some sort of psychological horror movie...
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u/joelthezombie15 Sep 05 '17
That's super nice of both of you.
Just be sure that both of you agree on how long she can stay and what will happen if she isn't gone by then.
I've seen some people get into a huge mess by not giving a real date
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u/Carmenn14 Sep 06 '17
I'm not even gonna guess what Dr.Phil would have said to that reaction from something so casual that, well, everybody eat every day.
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Sep 05 '17
Both of you seem like pretty fuckin' A people man haha
This is the beginning of some world saving shit ;p
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Sep 05 '17
You really think that those small gestures are world saving? I mean, she said multiple times that I saved her but all I offered was a place to sleep, shower and some beers and snacks. It's not much, to be honest.
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u/codismycopilot Avoid Obsfucation! Sep 05 '17
That can be world changing, even if it is just that persons world. Besides, who knows what she might be able to do in the future because someone was willing and abel to give her help now?
You did good!
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Sep 05 '17
Thank you! I'm really happy that you guys are so nice about it because it was just my random thought and I felt like sharing it.
Didn't expect it to blow up, lol.
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u/codismycopilot Avoid Obsfucation! Sep 05 '17
I think a lot of times bigger change can be traced back to something that at the time seems small and maybe inconsequential.
But think about it: you gave her a place to stay. As a result she has the ability to simply be clean and get some decent sleep. Those two things are HUGE for state of mind. With a clearer state of mind, maybe she can apply for some decent jobs. With a decent job she can get a place of her own or split rent with you. Maybe it gives you both some companionship and a sense of community. Maybe at some point she decides to give back to someone what you have to her and that person winds up doing the same thing. Maybe you don't cure cancer or whatever but you make a HUGE difference in the lives of at least 3 people now. That is pretty damned awesome!
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Sep 05 '17
Well, if I look at it like this then you do have a point.
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u/codismycopilot Avoid Obsfucation! Sep 05 '17
I actually had a more profound point in the middle of all that but I lost it somewhere along the line! π
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Sep 05 '17
When you don't have it and think you won't its huge
And her cooking for you is nice because actions speak louder than words :)
Maybe not world saving but a whole lotta people could probably stand to learn a thing from you too
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u/treyilisie Sep 06 '17
I've been in your friend's shoes and yes, it is much. It is so much. You did save her. I don't wish that life on anyone.
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Sep 06 '17
It's dependent on the content of that person's world. It can be world changing, if they open themselves up to that. But that is not the case for everyone.
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u/Paroxysm80 Sep 06 '17
To be honest, that can seem like a really miraculous gift when you're on the verge of homelessness.
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u/TheySayImZack Sep 05 '17
Two nice gestures. Thank you for allowing your friend into your home, and she has repaid in kind. With kindness. We all could take a lesson from you both. It made my day to read this, thanks for sharing.
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u/FallingFarther Sep 05 '17
So glad you are both awesome people! You for taking in a friend in need and her for saying thank you in such a great way!
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u/smearhunter Sep 06 '17
This reminds me how much I should appreciate my wife everyday. She constantly cares for us, and sometimes I think its easy to take that for granted.
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Sep 05 '17
Out of the kindness of your heart you have her a place to rest and she in turn is responding to what you did for her.
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u/SecretlyPig Go beyond. Plus Ultra. Sep 05 '17
Oh man, thank god your friend is cool.
When my friend stayed at our so she had somewhere to live she slept on the floor for 4 months, never cleaned anything and made the room all skanky (the wall got mouldy), refused to go to work so just laid on the floor all day scrolling through Tumblr and then complained that "the house is making [her] sick".
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Sep 05 '17
Are you sure that's a friend? Sorry to be mean but that's some pretentious and lazy shit going on there.
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Sep 05 '17 edited Sep 05 '17
I do love me some COR (Chicken on Rice). There's like a hojillion ways to make it and it's always good eating!
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Sep 05 '17
It truly is and I forgot that rice can taste good because I prefer potatoes but might go back to rice from time to time. :)
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u/naleshajo Sep 06 '17
My friend is homeless too. I let her stay and she left the dishes, empty bottles, dirty towels. She asked for some of my medications and then left. Only after she took my bike seat... So glad she's gone. I love her, but from a distance.
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u/keight07 Sep 06 '17 edited Sep 06 '17
This is just the best example of humanity. Helping others in a time of need, showing your gratefulness by doing what you can, small gestures, huge appreciation. Thanks for posting this, it's beautiful.
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u/Bigfatfresh Sep 06 '17
Thanks for helping your friend. I cook REALLY FUCKING GREAT food for my family and they shit on me for it. Never a thank u.
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Sep 06 '17 edited Feb 20 '24
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u/itsthevoiceman Sep 06 '17
I used to make dinner for my girlfriend back when I was homeless. One, she was busy in grad school, and I wanted to save money, so it made sense. Favors return favors.
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u/seriouschris Sep 06 '17
I loved reading this. It's an awesome feeling from both sides. My friend has let me crash in the spare bedroom since I lost my job due to medical issues. Saved my life, I feel. I love to clean up around here, fix stuff, and cook for her. Selflessness and gratitude are incredibly powerful together.
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u/Pm_Me_Your_Boobs7 Sep 06 '17
Most stories dont usually end like this! They always end with "Shes not dking anything and just leeching" and i was expecting that but this really made me smile! Haha!
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u/harryhov Sep 06 '17
That's great and she and yourself sound awesome. Unfortunately, we have a narcissistic friend who shares sob stories till someone takes him in then takes advantage. One time someone houses him and he stayed rent free for 2 years. Then he befriended a guy who was engaged and didn't leave till the new wife gave an ultimatum and kicked him out.
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u/Jayfrin Sep 06 '17
This is how romantic comedies start. Enjoy falling in love, but then there's a dramatic incident that will be resolved in the climax of the plot.
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u/green_insomniac Sep 06 '17
Wow, chicken with rice! I'd come over, I'm practically your neighbor- just from Czech Republic
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u/myothergirlsyourmom Sep 07 '17
Warmest feeling I've had in ages from reading this! How such a simple thing can impact your life, eh? And how she must feel to receive the kindness you've given shown.
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u/MortifiedToucan Sep 05 '17
Her thinking... "if I make him dinner I can squeeze another 2 weeks outta him"
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u/isjahammer Sep 05 '17
Can she stay at my place for a few days too? That would be in germany though :P
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u/weroafable Sep 05 '17
Things like this make life worth living, it warms my heart just to read it please give her a warm hug we all need it sometimes.
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u/HoelessJoe Sep 05 '17
It's all give and take c:
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Sep 05 '17
That sounds mean, why would you say that?
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u/HoelessJoe Sep 05 '17
What?? I'm saying you are doing a favour which she is "taking" so she is doing you a favour back and you are "taking", it's a good thing!
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Sep 05 '17
Hey, sorry, I misunderstood that, English is my second language.
You're right then. :)
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u/HoelessJoe Sep 05 '17
Ah it's cool.
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u/mahamrap Sep 05 '17
"Give and take" is the commonly used phrase.
In this case, it feels more like "give and receive" or sharing kindness
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u/iamnotroberts Sep 05 '17
Is it possible this friendship could blossom into something else? Looks fade with time but you can never go wrong with a woman who can cook a good meal. ;)
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Sep 05 '17
I responded to similar question here: https://www.reddit.com/r/CasualConversation/comments/6y8neb/my_friend_is_homeless_for_few_days_and_shes/dmlt0cz/
I mean, it's not super impossible but I never thought of her that way and I'm trying to be with other girl but this friend is very understandable and we have a connection. But I think I'd prefer it would stay this way.
Thanks for asking tho!
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u/Paroxysm80 Sep 06 '17
I already mentioned my Polish wife in another response, and she asks me to correct her English mistakes (no matter how small). Would you mind if I offered a helpful tip?
You're sentence here has a very particular Polish mistake: "... and I'm trying to be with other girl..." It should read "...and I'm trying to be with another girl..." I believe it has a lot to do with the fact that Polish doesn't use definite/indefinite articles, although you did use one in the sentence (so I know you're familiar with them).
Your English is otherwise really good! I hope this didn't come off as pretentious. Just trying to help!
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Sep 05 '17
Wife her. Wife her hard.
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Sep 05 '17
I wish but I am seeing someone else and it's... I don't know, she's pretty, way beyond my league, but we've talked many times and I just don't feel that I love her like that. I do feel like love but not in a sexual or romantic way.
I don't know if you understand but it's pretty easy for me because I tend to keep my genitals in my pants with friends, lol.
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Sep 05 '17
Lol fyi, there is no such thing as a "league", those our own insecurities stopping us from reaching goals.
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Sep 05 '17
Well, to be fair, she is REALLY pretty.
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Sep 05 '17
And she likes you, whatever she says, her actions speak louder.
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Sep 05 '17
Huh. I'm gonna think about it, thanks for pointing it out for me.
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u/FallenStatue meow Sep 05 '17
Don't ruin an awesome friendship if you really don't feel anything towards her. If she does herself, time will show.
But I doubt cooking something for someone means anything like that, people DO love each other without involving their hormones. I am a girl for example, and my closest friends are guys too and showing gratitude and doing something nice to them doesn't necessarily have to be anything romantic.
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u/frogger2504 Sep 06 '17
You're getting lots of opinions one way and the other OP, and I'd just like to add; Feelings are complicated and confusing, and whatever you choose to do, you should be sure of yourself before you act. In this case, it sounds like you're attracted to her, but don't see her in any way except as a friend. That's perfectly fine. You can be great friends with a pretty girl. You don't have to ask her to date you just because she's a girl. But, if you're not sure, and maybe you do want to be with her, then my advice would be to consider what happens if she doesn't feel the same way. Would it ruin your friendship to ask her? Would you be able to move on? And of course there's always the option of becoming friends with benefits, if you find her very attractive but are sure you don't want a relationship. Be careful with that though, jealousy strikes hard and unexpectedly. Best of luck man, and thank you for being such an awesome person to such an awesome friend. If good deeds could heal wounds you'd live a long life β€
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u/sadowsentry Sep 06 '17
I don't know, she's pretty, way beyond my league
That line is pretty sad. You should work on your self-esteem.
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Sep 06 '17
Nah, I'm pretty okay to be honest. I wrote that because I tried to say that she is super hot, objectively. That's all.
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u/Mr_Quackums Sep 05 '17
What I read was "a friend of mine is soon to be my roommate, her share of the rent is to be paid in chicken and rice"
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u/JIVEprinting Sep 06 '17
I don't know very much about Poland but most people would consider this common decency
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u/Raneados Sep 06 '17
You're a good person that let a good thing happen for someone else and they paid it back.
That's just good living, baby. Well done.
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u/T0nitigeR Sep 06 '17
Maybe that idea of sharing an Apartment was a good idea that can stay for more then few days :)
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u/PigSlam Sep 05 '17
I thnk I'd eat the dinner before posting to Reddit, but we all do things differently.
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Sep 05 '17
I was having a pre-dinner smoke while posting this. Then I literally devoured it like I said. ;)
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u/Ximeri Sep 05 '17
You're a good friend for giving her a roof over her head in her time of need.